The Extraordinary Guys
Saturday, August 26, 2006
The community in Amman is a complex, yet very connected set of social networks. Tracing some social relations you’ll come to conclude that everybody is connected to everybody in some way or another. This doesn’t apply to other communities as much as it applies to Jordan, specifically Amman. I think that this high connectivity is directly related to the relatively small size of our population (compared to other foreign communities), and most importantly: our Jordanian traditions that emphasize the importance of keeping in close touch with all relatives and friends.
Most people think that the word “community” strictly describes the world of the “elder” people, but I don’t think so. Communities are characterized by the environment, and since all of us: engineers, doctors, tradesmen, natives, foreigners, grown-ups and youngsters share the same environment; then all of us make the community!
It should also be acknowledged that our (and every other) community is made of groups of sub-communities of people who share a common location, identity, or interest.
Among the many communities and social groups that form our society, there is the “Guys” Community, a community formed by mostly all the guys of Amman, say those who are 18-25 years old, and who don’t spend Thursdays watching TV or sitting infront of a computer.
The way I see it, guys socialize in more interesting ways than girls and grown-ups do. The relationships they tend to build range on different scales of friendship and respect. Also, guys meet on more “free” grounds; they don’t meet in parties nor in family gatherings; they meet in hangouts! Therefore guys usually build “deeper” and more “open” links to each other.
It’s pretty hard to imagine all of that if you’re not a guy who keeps in touch with a number of different gangs. The Guys Community is large Jordanian community with a great potential and a promising future.
During the past 5 years of my life, I came to know hundreds of new guys through work and though the expanding network of universities and friends. With these new connections, I started to understand the structure of the guys’ community. I also started to meet new “gentlemen” guys I personally refer to as the “Extraordinary” …
The extraordinary guys are those who haven’t let a single moment of their lives slip away for nothing since the very beginning! Every one of those guys has developed some kind of an amazing skill, made a remarkable achievement, or already became independent of their parents' care, and almost nobody knows about them!
Mostly all guys grow up under their parents’ care preparing to advance to the next level; becoming independent. Guys at this stage are only asked to pay attention to their studies, no one is asked to work, make a living, or accomplish. Some have interesting hobbies, and have developed remarkable skills, while others have started to work alongside with studying. Only very few guys, however, already make a better independent person in this early stage. Among the hundreds I know, only 10 guys make it as “extraordinary” in my opinion.
This Thursday, I was at Sleman’s farm with a big bunch of his friends and buddies celebrating his graduation. After lunch, we split into groups and everybody went doing something. I joined Sami Kreishan and some other guys and sat having an exciting chat over a range of subjects. I got introduced to Bashar, an interesting guy who makes professional web-site Flash designs. I will simply refer to his work as “beyond description”, because no words fit in this regard. Bashar has already started making a living out of his flash designs and has other remarkable skills. I realized that he’s definitely an extraordinary guy as soon as he showed me some of his work on his laptop.I had a joyful chat with him, and made sure I had his contact details before we left. He’s also coming to my university next semester so we’ll have more chances to talk and explore each other :)
Bashar and other extraordinary guys are well-known in the guys’ community. Those guys have already accomplished what even grown-ups were short to. A gathering of 2~3 similar guys can lead to a very huge and successful project, but it’s just that every one of them is a Jack of a different trade, and the circumstances rarely join a group of such guys in one place.
The extraordinary never show through universities, exhibits, or social events. They have their own life and they’re way beyond showoff. If you met somebody in one of those places and thought he’d be one of the extraordinary, think again.
Those guys have a very promising future, and every one of them has a big chance to become a model figure in the near future. Sadly, but not so surprising, they prefer not to be spoken of, so unless you come to know them personally, you’ll never meet them again :)
16 Response(s) to "The Extraordinary Guys"
John Doe said:
Explore each other??
Would u like to elaborate....
Black [X] Truder said:
Daaaaah John Doe! oo bteje tebke ba3deen lamma a3mel delete lal comments taba3oonak?
Anyway, exploring each other like getting to know each other, not strictly the way guys in 6abarboor are used to explore you ;)
John Doe said:
First of all, how could u not c this one coming? And what u said is BS. Don't get defensive it's ok, just embrace ur true self. I mean u went to a farm and stayed till god knows when, i'm not gonna make any innuendos here but u were with a bunch of guys, u split into groups, u wanna explore people, it's pretty obvious. Although nice one, trying to turn this on me.
Abed. Hamdan said:
And There's another fact about Amman,
In any social group, you'll find someone that belongs or related to My family in a way or another :D
Lubna said:
yaman... zaman 3an na'3ashtak:P
John Doe said:
Lubna, how nice of u to drop by just to say that!
Lubna said:
:) .... we're still cool though? :P lol
ghaith.... go online for a while plz eee
Black [X] Truder said:
John Dah
I hope you get this straight: you’re not being funny.
Am not trying to “turn this on you” because your stupid comment shows it all; you obviously have a wrong image of the kinds of relationships guys tend to form, again thanks goes to the 6abarboor guys for making you understand so.
Guys usually hangout in farms to have a nice chat over a fire place, eat something, or just enjoy a cards game. Thank god not everybody does what you 6abarboor guys do in farms. Also, guys can split into groups for so many different reasons other than the ones you guys in 6abarboor split for ;)
If you have other off-topic comments, feel free to submit because am anxious to try the Delete Comment button. Otherwise, just shut up and bug off.
Next time you blabber nonsense on a serious entry your comments will be trashed immediately … don’t you try me.
Abed.
lol, it’s kinda the same for my family, but am not sure you should like it though. You don’t want anyone of your family to belong to the 6abarboor social group, do you?
Lubna
It’s not na3’asheh; Johnny has a serious issue and must be evacuated out of 6abarboor immediately.
John Doe said:
Well i … (nonsense truncated by blog owner)
Lubna
We're always "cool"...
lammoush said:
i like abed hamdan's comment hahahahha true
hamede said:
6abarboor i got it.
Abed. Hamdan said:
lol..
U know what, I wanna get rid of them, and I want to start new family and call it the Abed Family.. 7afaro raasi :)
Ghaith said:
lol, and when your Abed Family grows again new rebels will come out and branch into new families and so on, so what's the use? ;)
My advice: you guys stick into one family and thank god for it; being part of an extended family is a gift :)
The Godfather (Bashar) said:
I just wanted to thank u gaith for the post u put,i really do appreciate it(and we could say rasee keber :P),the matter infact everybody is extraordinary they just don get the chance to meet their inner person afterall this is my point of view,and to prove that in a way or another u can consider wut happened later at the farm:P,and abt exploring each other,it would be alot better f u just say,communicating in an advance way coz am quiet sure ppl r gettin it totally the wrong way includin me:P
Ghaith said:
lol, Okay sure :P
Lubna said:
So that's the guy you introduced to me the other day. See I did read this post, but when you mentioned it, I only rememberd the hanging out part and that guys' community is different from the girls' :)
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